You are loved
You are beautiful
You are strong
You are enough
Have a plan to kick back negativity
I for one always believed in ‘go with flow’. Of course we can all go with the flow, its life at the end of the day. There will be days where you won’t always be able to be positive, and thats ok. If you feel like you want to through something on the ground, through tin foil, if you feel like you need to shout, search youtube for funny videos!
Always have a back up plan just in case your first plan doesn’t work. If you can, try and work through negativity – that way your lifting a ton off your chest. If you like to babble (eg talking) then babble!
What if no one is there to listen?
Then get a diary and write in it. Show it to that person when both of you are not busy.
But do I really need to show it to the person?
No, of course not. Whats in your diary is for your eyes only, and if you want to share it, then share it. The whole point of having a diary is to get that heavy load off your chest, so you don’t need to stress out about showing it to anyone else, if you don’t want to.
What if I have problems with my reading and writing?
Thats no problem. Theres other ways of tackling your emotions and you don’t need pen or paper to do it either. If you have a phone you could always record yourself expressing how you feel.
Try and distract yourself from what ever is on your mind. I find when my mind is racing, I tend to get a little cranky. Knowing what triggers negative thinking will help you to to controlling it. And remember, if you feel like you cant always be positive, thats ok too. Rome wasn’t built in a day so give it a day and see how it goes. Don’t be pushing yourself, and treat yourself every now and then. We’re only human at the end of the day.
***I am not a health professional, if you are worried about your health, visit your GP***
Look beyond the label – part 3
Anxiety for me is like being angry for someone else. There were times if I wasn’t sure if I was feeling angry or just anxious. What makes me anxious would be losing control of my anger. Before getting diagnosed with AS (Aspergers Syndrome), I became so used to the feeling of being angry, stressed and anxious, it was the norm for me. I became numb to the feelings that I didn’t realise what made me lose control. When I look back now, it was got to do with information overload. Maybe I did feel anxious but I just didn’t notice.
Look at it like this. I like to refer my anger and meltdowns as a volcano. Somebody says something that I didn’t like, I feel agitated, but I let it go like a pinch of salt. This is only raising my anger a small bit. Then something else happens – say if someone pushed or touched off me, that would make me a little bit more angry, considering that I don’t like people touching off me. Over the day or week, the same thing happens over again, by accident of course.
The volcano is at bubbling point at this stage. I don’t say how I’m feeling, not knowing how to express it on my face. Then with a blink of an eye, something triggers my meltdowns. The volcano erupts – and bam I’ve lost control. I insult, shout, cry and then eventually falling asleep over an hour later. This was a constant cycle until I got diagnosed with AS. Then I started to learn, accept, grow and acknowledge that I have AS, and I will have it for the rest of my life. My meltdowns are now controllable and I am well self aware of when I am feeling moody – I like to find my own peace by being by myself. This helps me to control my moodiness and prevents meltdowns
Its ok to….
Asking for help shouldn’t be frowned apon! It should be considered as a strength. Sometimes we just need to cry, talk or even going on a little break.
A little break for me would be travelling on a bus to the last stop and then travelling all the way home again. Some people might think that this is bizarre, but it’s what brings me comfort knowing that I can travel independently. It took me years upon years to get this far.
This may not work for everyone though. Some people might like meditation, me included! Where others might like to go walking while listening to up beat songs! That’s another one I like doing by myself too. Anxiety to one person to another can vary, not everyone has the same symptom! When I’m anxious, I can come across as angry, which is not my intention. Sometimes you just gotta step back and look after yourself and know that your trying your best.
I am…
Quiet
Independent
Hard working
Positive thinker
Kind
A child at heart
Intelligent
Open minded
I can be…
Often misunderstood
Moody
Clumsy
Annoying
Opinionated
Lazy
I’m in love with…
Nintendo Switch
Celebrities
Animals
Nature
Travel
My own company
Sleep
Day dreaming
Be Kind to Yourself
Your doing your best
Don’t allow your inner critic
tell you what you should and shouldn’t feel
You are only human
Nicole Marie B
Let them judge you
Let them misunderstand you
Let them gossip about you
Their opinions aren’t your problems
You stay kind, committed to love &
authenticity. No matter what they say or do,
don’t doubt your worth and the beauty in your truth.
Just keep shining like you always do
Scott Stabile
Wreckage
There is nothing beautiful about
wreckage of a human being.
There is nothing pretty about pain,
about heartache.
What is beautiful is
Their strength,
Their resilience,
Their fortitude
as they display an ocean of courage
When they pick through the wreckage of their life
to build something beautiful brand new
against every odd that
is stacked up against them
Nikita Gill
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Answering Your Questions
Hi There
So on the 14 of May, I decided to let you guys know me a little bit better. So I decided to post a
Question and Answers blog!
Actually Autistic Blogs List asked:
“I most enjoy reading about personal experiences related to being Autistic. There’s never an oversupply of personal accounts because we are all unique.“
Great Question! My experience from having Aspergers Syndrome would be some what complicated. I didn’t get diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome until I was 22. Before that, I would start to shout and cry if I didn’t like anything, but I didn’t know why. Anger would just come out of no where and I’d pick it out on my family.
I suppose the first sign was when I started school. My speech was delayed and I was delayed at walking. Being in the 90’s they didn’t have much resources about Autism or Aspergers Syndrome, so my school just put it down as a mild learning disability and emotional and behavioural needs. So I spent all of my childhood, teens and being an adult not knowing that I am Autistic!
When I finally did get diagnosed in early 2014, I hated the fact that I Aspergers dictated my life. I’ve spent so many years having meltdown after meltdown and didn’t know what it was. I felt so angry because I felt like I was let down. I kept thinking “Why didn’t I get diagnosed when I was in school?” For 5 whole months, I felt myself becoming more and more angry. I also kept searching google about traits of Aspergers Syndrome – Which is a big no no!
If anyone has any requests for me to blog, please comment down below in the comment section
Questions and Answers – Interaction
Quotes
I am like the wind, when life tries to knock me over, I come back even stronger
Hope (Hold On Pain Ends)
Not sure
What doesnt kill you makes you stronger
Kelly Clarkson
Do no harm but dont take sh*t
The way you speak to yourself matters
Even Santa Claus suffers anxiety – thats why he only visits once a year
Everyone has been through something that has changed them in a way that they can never go back to the person they once were.
You are your own teacher by learning by your own mistakes.
What to expect when everything is reopening
Hi there!
I’m sure all of you must of heard by now that Ireland will be starting to reopen on the 10 of May (Monday) beginning with Inter – County Travel. Hairdressers, barbers and beauticians with an appointment only basis. . Click and collect will resume for non essential retail. Library’s and other cultural attractions will also be reopening.
Keep in mind, that there will be still be restrictions in place like only so many allowed inside a store at any one time. Thats why some places like Pennys started a booking platform on their website and by phone.
Here you’ll be able to see what exactly will be allowed to open on what dates.
I hope this information is helpful for for you. Stay Safe, Be Well
My journey through positive thinking 